my story

1973 : Born in Marseille, FRANCE. A very sunny place I still live in.

1980′s : A very happy childhood with lot of love around me. At this time, like lot of us, I do exactly what I’m expected to do which means having good results at school to get one day a real good job (lawyer, scientist, doctor …). Being a musician or an comics artist isn’t an option. What pleases me doesn’t seem to be so important because … I don’t really know what pleases me. And to be honnest, I’ll realize later that this way of living was a manner to protect myself from my own fears.

1992 : I begin to play guitar and begin my love story with music. Since then, the guitar never left me a single day. Music, guitar, bands, gear, playing on stage and creating songs gave me a strong self-confidence and  brought me so much dreams and passion. At the same time, I begin my 3 years engineer school program. Creating programs for computers was a way to develop and spit out my inner creativity fire. But, I’m still a liar to myself. Some things are really boring in this job and, once again, I accept them because I must do what’s expected for me.

1996 : First jobs in Information Systems companies. Even if I strongly believe that what I’m working on is exactly what I’ll be doing for a lifetime, I don’t like the idea that my boss can do whatever he wants with my time, my skills, my thoughts etc… My quest for freedom began here. First thing to do : quit as soon as possible.

2000 : Good things happen to me so easily. A girlfriend that will become my wife, a very nice appartement, enough money, good colleagues, a good job in the french local govermnent organisation I’ll leave 9 years later. At this time, I still believe that being happy is living in a secure environment. Following hard common basic living rules is the only only way I know  to live my life.

2004 : The breach. I have everything : a wife, a child, a family, lots of friends, recognition in job, good colleagues, good salary, a music band that tours. But : I’m not happy. Hunger’s appears daily everywhere. Crying crisis overwhelm me. I’m sad, full of wrath and, worst of all : I don’t know why. My brain seems to not working anymore. This the beginning of the end.

2006 : Demolition begins. I want to live alone and decide to break out my all entire personal life. For so many reasons, a divorce, as difficult as it is, is necessary. I want to live the life I never lived. But I’m not able to tell exactly what it is. Truth is, I’ve been the only responsible of my own frustrations. I made lot of my choices just to please people, forgetting myself. On the professional side, I’m sure I’ll be happy when I’m headmaster.

2007 : Next step demolition : I leave the band I’ve been plaing guitar in for 10 years. Altough I always thought (I may say dream) music was my real destiny, I realize that the relationship with other band members has to end If I want to step forward in my life. And, once again, I have to break a family. If I stay, I always be the guitarist of a small local band playing covers. At this time, I don’t understand my own decision, but I know I have to quit.

2008-2009 : I’m headmaster. But, once again, it isn’t enough. So it’s time to stop this crazy ride. I decide to I take full responsability, to stop blaming all my relatives of all my troubles and ask myself the good questions. Hopefully, I find love. True love. A twin soul who knows everything of every side of my personality and let me make my way. Without such love, everything would have been quite impossible. So, what’s my action plan ? It’s simple : do, do, do. Action is the solution : I hire a personal growth coach to help me out to ask myself the good questions : Do I really want to be a comics artist ? Do I want to be a professional musician ? Would’nt it be better to let explodes my coaching skills and abilities and mix them with topics I love ?

2009 : It’s time to spread my wings. If I don’t do it, I’ll always go from a job to another one, to a wife to another one, to a car to another one, looking for something I’ll surely never find. I have to jump. I’m scared as hell. Whan am I happy ? When I help people and coach them to pass their exam. Whan am I fullfilled ? When I let my creativity explode. So, it’s time. I quit my headmaster position and start my small french company. I use every part of my brain, of my creativity, of my self, of my conviction, of my DNA to build something that will be the perfect reflection of who I am and how I work. So my mind’s made up : I’ll be a coach, I’ll write books and I’ll do exactly what I want.

2010 : Here it is. I ‘m an entrepreneur, a professional author and coach. I wrote one french HR management book and one coaching book. As my publisher ask me for a third one, I really feel lucky as hell. Each day is not so easy but even in hard moments, I am in my life and I’ve got the strong feeling that I get out of the Matrix for good.

2011 : I start coaching people for reaching so various and different  goals : attorneys, sports champions, divers, musicians. So, as my skills grow day after day, I decide to launch the 35nextyears projects. I’m ready to live this journey and I’m going to be as near as myself as I could expect, connecting my professional skills to what interests me in my personal life : music, free-diving, drawing, philosophy, sciences… whatever.  To be honnest, I don’t have millions (money does’nt come so easily) and I won’t promise to anyone that I can tell exactly what to do to reach success and be rich in only 30 days. I just can write out in posts and books what I lived, what I’ve learnt from people I regurlaly help to reach their goals, what I felt and what seems important to my eyes to live the life we all deserve.

Changing my life in order to become myself needed hard decisions and a couple of sacrifices. But, I recently clearly understood that every part of my life, good things or bad things, people I met, people I hurt, friends, so called friends, enemies, mistakes …were just necessary small pieces of a complicated equation I’m the result of . And the  purpose of this equation is simple :  start my 35 next years.

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